Definition: Marriage is a legal or formally
recognized union between two people (Man and woman).
Marriage is very
sensitive as well as a very strong holy relationship between man and women for
lifetime. It is a kind of that love bond and that loveable relationship in
which husband and wife spend every life moment with each other. They share
their happiness, sorrows and love with each other. It’s not only the union of
two peoples but also the union of two perspective families. Sometimes marriage
is arranged and sometimes it depends on likeness by both partners. Every
country has its own marriage traditions and culture values, but one thing is
same all over the globe that is ‘LOVE’. Traditions can be different but love is
same. Here we will discuss marriage customs and
traditions of Pakistan and culture. Marriage traditions of Pakistan and China
are totally different. Below is the detailed discussion of it. Firstly I will
discuss Pakistani marriage culture.
has many events given below.
before few days of wedding
For wedding of boy or girl a search
is usually done by family members. And this effort is done by any matrimonial
sites or relatives or third party member. But now-a-days this trend is losing
popularity. Boys and girls now-a-days select their partners by themselves and
go to court for marriage because they have their own mindset and both family
members are against of it. Some marriages are arranged by parents and both
partners understand each other and compromise with each other for themselves
and for their family. Some marriages are arranged and there is likeness from
both sides, both partners told to their parents and they send proposal to girls
home and they accept and marry both of them, it’s called semi arranged
Once a decision has been taken then
grooms family send proposal message to brides home. And grooms family pay
potential visit to brides home, and the first visit is purely for the parties
to acquaint with one another and for formal proposal. Then after that visit
both families decide whether they like or dislike each other or not. If both of
them like each other than proposal message sent to brides home for her hand in
marriage, where elder members of groom’s family asked to bride’s family for
marriage proposal. After acceptance both families, grooms family give gifts to
bride and brides family offer sweets to grooms family to start a new
relationship not only for boys and girls but also for new two families.
Different kinds of beverages and refreshments are served by bride’s family in
happiness for new life.
After few days or months of
accepting marriage proposal from both sides a ceremony is held by both families
to mark the engagement of couple and is called engagement or mangni in Urdu
language. It is a small family function in which just couple families are
involved and they exchange rings to each other. In traditional values both
couple don’t sit together, families elder members do this ceremony and exchange
rings between boy and girl. Then a prayer and blessings are recited for the couple
and the wedding date is decided.