I)INTRODUCTIONFamily violence is one of the most important problems concerned by many people in the whole world. Specifically, the children are the people who undergo the injuries about both physical aspects and mentality. Based on Domestic Violence Roundtable website, the survey illustrates that 2 – 4 million children between the ages of 3 – 17 are at risk of exposure to domestic violence each year. Us government statistics give that the number of domestic violence cases that involve women victims of their husbands or their lovers is 95%. In a family, Observing one of the parents abusing other one is a really difficult thing to any child and it causes many unpredictable consequences to children. In this paper, I will discuss about the impacts of family violence on children’s well being and developmental growth.II) BODYDefining the domestic violence.1.1 Domestic violence is a kind of behavior that one of partner use violence to abuse another partner in domestic setting, such as marriage or living together as husband and wife. when a brute uses violence on the other half can be term intimate partner violence and can replace heterosexual or gay or lesbian relationship or between the ex-lover or ex-partner, . Domestic viciousness might also include savagery against children, guardian or even the elderly. Also might a chance to be accomplished with the self-protection. It takes a number of forms, including the verbal, physical, emotional, economic, religious, regenerative cell and sexual abuse, which range from subtle, coercive rape can happen. Furthermore, violence on the physical side, for example, such as choking, beating, female genital mutilation. Also, acid throwing that brings about disfigure or demise. (Wikipedia.org)1.2*Why does the domestic violence happen?Family violence occurs when the abuser believes that violence is acceptable, unlikely to be reported, they think that they can do anything to victims and the victims deserved to be treated like that. Hence, it can cause a cycle a domestic violence, children witnessing too much violence and then they continue thinking that violence is acceptable or condoned. Awareness, perception, definition, and documentation of family violence are unlike broadly between countries. Domestic violence often happens in the context of forced or child marriage.( Wikipedia.org). The uses of domestic violence are justified to impose one’s will or to resolve conflicts.(The Batterer as parents, 2011, p63)”He says he loves my mom but he lies. He tells mom to do everything at home.He never gave Mum any money. He hit my mum.I saw it.I tried to look happy but I was not inside. He never played with me – I felt lonely… My dad hit my sister with a plate and she started bleeding on her head. She was red everywhere… I am scared when I have to see my dad sometimes, that he will hurt me or shoot me. He said a lots of time that he would do that to all of us ” ( 6-year old boy, talking to Higgins, 1994 ).2.The states of family violence in Vietnam.Vietnamese has spent a lot of time on acknowledging that family violence is an important issue.Everyone in Vietnam is still an undisclosed issue but this view about this problem is believed to be better now, with the help from the society (asialifemagazine.com)According to one website called thanhniennews.com 2015, the number of victims of domestics in Vietnam is so surprising, nearly 60% of married women in Vietnam are abused and have suffered physical or sexual abuse at least one of their life. The number of women abused by both kinds of violence is nearly 58% and they must suffer the destroyed health and mental problems, a conference in Hanoi on November 25 announced .(thanhniennews.com)Pregnant women are also at risk. Some of the women who had been pregnant reported being beaten during pregnancy. In almost all of these cases,  the women have been abused by the father of the unborn child.This actual state is really sad. The number of the victims is too many and the women are often the people who has been abused the most. Because many people in Vietnam still have a perspective which is male chauvinism and treat women badly. That thinking is too outdated and it needs to be fixed.” It was depressing. My mother was always on the edge and I was frightened as well, every time he was there, thinking ‘oh, what’s he going to do today? Is he going to knife her or what?'”(Child quoted in Abrahams 1994, p33)           3.The impacts of domestic violence on children’s growth and development.3.1. Physical aspects.3.1.1 Prenatal.Michigan State University scientists have proved that unborn children can be affected by domestic abuse. The study illustrated a ” surprising strong” connection between mom and postnatal trauma symptoms in their children during the first year of their life.(dailymail.co.uk)Children’s weight, premature birth, excessive bleeding and fetal death can happen if the mother is abused.(Wikipedia.org)3.1.2 Infants.Make the children’s growth down low on the physical side, their health can be affected a lot because they lack of nutrition, some kids have some the symptoms of eating disorder. It influences so much in child’s well-being. .(Wikipedia.org)3.1.3 Older children .The children have mental troubles and the pains in their head make them go crazy and it leads to that they will take some neuroleptics and if they do not use it accurately or take too much to decrease their pains, it may harm to their health. The physical effects of witnessing domestic violence are not as clear as symptoms of behavioral problems. When the children get older, the anxiety gets bigger, too. They harbor the feeling of guilt, blame and are constantly on edge and can fall into depression easily. If their anxiety may progress to more physical symptoms, it can lead to that the children show their tiredness, lack of sleep and lose weight too much, nutrition changes from the poor eating habits.(Wikipedia.org)3.2 Behavioral problems.Scientist found that non-assaulted mother have slightly lower rate than abused mother or physical or psychological invasion toward their children and considerably higher rates of mistreatment their children or punish them scientist found that non-assaulted mother have slightly lower rate than abused mother or physical or psychological invasion toward their children and considerably higher rates of mistreatment their children or punish them (C.Taylor et al.200)children of assaulted moms can aim at their mothers for their resentment against the batter because they may often feel easy showing their mad directly their father ( Bancroft 2005, Roy, 1998). Hence, it causes a cycle of domestic violence. Domestic may seem unpredictable, however; it does, in fact, follow a typical pattern no matter when it occurs or who is in involved. (Cycle of Violence.pdf)Witnessing the family violence can make a huge injury about the psychological side for children and it can last through their whole life. They can be obsessed with the pains, feelings forever, they often feel insecure and always fear something that can happen. Grief, shame, and low-esteem are the common emotions that children exposed to domestic violence experience.Linda Esposito, a Los Angeles-based psychotherapist said that the children might blame themselves ” Maybe if I was a better kid or a smarter student, my parents would not fight”. Somehow it will lead to mental illness such as depression, anxiety, etc.(cnn.com,2014). Some children attempt suicide or abuse themselves such as cutting themselves, trying to get injuries and enjoying the pains.3.3 Social symptomsthe children may isolate themselves from others people that include friends and relatives in an effort to stay close to siblings and victimized by parentsSome children choose to join the gangs or become involved in dating relationship mimic the learned behavior Poor anger management, poor problem-solving skills, lack of communication skills and they do not know how to engage in exploitable.(Wikipedia.org)5. What helps.Raising everyone’s knowledge about domestic violence Know the warning sign of victims of violenceUnderstanding the basicsDo not pressure them to leave Help them to prepare a safety plan, thinking about their children, what is the best for both victims and children.Find different ways to support themMake sure they know that confidential and free help is accessible.Know the number of the police and call anytime have any problems.(theoddysyonline.com)Of the children reporting living with domestic violence, 39% reported experiencing sexual assault, 42% physical assault and more than half (559%) physical abuse; more than three-quarters(79%) had witness community violence.(Making an impact, 1988, P.44)6.Conclusion.       To sum up, children who have experiences of witnessing domestic violence have many problems and they should be protected from it. There are some ways to help those poor children and their victims of family violence. It is no doubt that family violence brings a lot of pains and effect a lot on children’s growth and well-being. We need to save those people and defend them from the abuser who makes the fear and obsessions about the family violence to the victims and children in spite of how many difficult things may become.’Cycle of domestic violence’ is a problem that makes everyone concern about it so much, in the past, made professionals worry about children who living with family violence as a ‘bad bet’ when they become the partners or parents in the future.(Children and domestic violence, 2000,p.26)7.References.1.the Effect of Domestic Violenceon children Accessed 28/12/20172.Effect of domestic on children   Accessed 28/12/20173.Lucy Bancroft and Jay Silverman (2011).The Battered of Parents: Addressing the impacts of domestic violence on family dynamics. 2 edition. SAGE publications PDF Available at 4. 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